( WHERE EAGLES DARE )

EVERYONE IN THIS ERRA IS HIGHY TENSED. THIS TENSION IMPACTED ALL AT GENERAL AS AGGRESSIVE , HYPER OR TENSED PERSON. THIS IRRITATION RESULTS IN RAGES, NATURALLY RESULTING IN HARSH WORD EXCHANGE.THE CONCEPT OF “FRIENDSHIP IS AT A SEVERE DECLINE, WHEREAS IT IS DIRE NEED OF TIME.FRIENDSHIO IS A BLESSING, BY SHARING HAPPINESS AND SORROWS. TENSED MUSCLES RELAXES AND RAGEOUS ALBUMIN REDUCES.TO SIT FRIEND CIRCLE INSPIRES LOVE IN LIFE MAKING A MAN CHEERFULL.PLEASE READ IT WHEN YOU ARE FREE. IF I PROVIDE YOU SLIGHT HAPPINESS, I WILL CONSIDER IT A GREAT SUCCESS.BEWARE … THE POWER CAN FORCE ANYONE TO BOW HEAD TEMPORARILY, BUT YOU CAN NEVER WIN HEARTS.

THIS IS A VERY SIMPLE PRACTICE, BUT RESULTS ARE BEYOND EXPECTATIONS.PLEASE DO TRY APPENDED SIMPLE SUGGESTIONS.BY PRACTICING THIS, YOU WILL BECOME A HOT FAVOURITE ALL OVER.PEOPLE WILL LOVE YOU, THEY WILL WAIT FOR YOU. PARTIES WILL BE INCOMPLETE IN YOUR ABSENSE.JUST TRY. IT IS A FREE DISCUSSION FORM.

WHILE ENTERING IN YOUR OFFICE OR WORK PLACE SAY “GOOD MORNING”TO EVERY INDIVIDUAL, WHILE DECORATING A FACINATING SMILE ON FACE.

TRY TO BE WELL DRESSED ACCORDING TO CLIMATE.TAKE LOT CARE OF YOUR SHOES (POLISHED) AND HAIR COMBED.

INCASE OF DRIVING, IF CAR STOPS ON SIGNAL OR IN RUSHY AREA, LET THE PADESTRIANS CROSS ROAD, OR GIVE WAY TO OTHER FIRST IF HE TRIES TO OVERTAKE, IT WILL IMPACT OTHERS POSITVELY.

IF YOU ARE A BOSS, NEVER CRITICISE, CONDEMN OR OBJECT DIRECTLY, BUT GIVE YOUR OPINION AS AN OPTION / ALTERNATE      SHOWING OTHER SIDE OF PICTURE DIRECT CRITISIM, OBJECTION, WILL LEAD TO ALL NEGATIVE ASPECTS FROM EITHER SIDE.

NEVER BE MISER IN APPRECIATIONS, BE HONEST IN OPINION BUT IN A VERY POLITE AND UNDERSTANDABLE MANNER. 

PAY PROPER RESPECT, IRRELEVENT TO STAUS, TREAT UPON HUMANITARIAN

GROUNDS.

SHOW GENUINE INTEREST IN OTHERS, WHILE THEY ARE SPEAKING. 

INTRODUCE “SMILE” AS HABBIT, IT WILL SOOTH AND EASE JAWS MUSCLES, WHICH WILL IMPACT FRESHNESS ON FACE.

YOU MUST KNOW THE NAME OF COLLEGUES, FRIENDS, SUBORDINATES. CALL THEM BY NAME.BECAUSE A PERSON’S NAME IS THE SWEETEST AND MOST IMPORTANT SOUND FOR ADDRESSED PERSON.

BE A GOOD LISTENER. ENCOURAGE OTHERS TO TALK ABOUT THEM; KEEP EYE CONTACT WITH SMILING FACE. OTHER SHOULD REALIZE THAT YOU ARE MUCH INTRESTED AND LISTENING WITH FULL ATTENTION.

TALK IN TERMS OF THE OTHER PERSON’S INTERESTS, DISCUSS TOPICS IN WHICH HE IS INTRESTED.MAKE THE OTHER PERSON FEEL IMPORTANT AND REALIZE HIM THAT THIS UNIVERSE WAS INCOMPLETE WITHOUT HIS BIRTH.

THE ONLY WAY TO GET THE BEST OF AN ARGUMENT IS TO AVOID IT.

SHOW RESPECT FOR THE OTHER PERSON’S OPINIONS. NEVER SAY, DIRECTLY “YOU’RE WRONG.” IT MAY CREATE GRUDGE TO THAT PERSON.

IF YOU ARE WRONG, ADMIT IT QUICKLY AND EMPHATICALLY.NEVER BE REVEENGEFUL.NEVER MIS-USE POWERS.

A FRIENDLY WAY IS THE BEST TO DISCUSS OR ADVICE WHATSOEVER.WHICH WILL FORCE THE OTHER PERSON TO SAY  “YES, YES” IMMEDIATELY.

LET THE OTHER PERSON DO A GREAT DEAL OF THE TALKING.ALLOW HIM TO CLEAR HIS POSITION OR VERSION.AVOID EX-PARTE( IN CASE OF ANY EXPLAINATION, OR ALLEGATION)

LET THE OTHER PERSON FEEL THAT THE IDEA IS HIS OR HERS.

TRY HONESTLY TO SEE THINGS FROM THE OTHER PERSON’S POINT OF VIEW.

BE SYMPATHETIC WITH THE OTHER PERSON’S IDEAS AND DESIRES.

DRAMATIZE YOUR IDEAS.

THROW DOWN A CHALLENGE.

BEGIN WITH PRAISE AND HONEST APPRECIATIONS.

CALL ATTENTION TO PEOPLE’S MISTAKES INDIRECTLY.

TALK ABOUT YOUR OWN MISTAKES BEFORE CRITICIZING THE OTHER PERSON.

ASK QUESTIONS INSTEAD OF GIVING DIRECT ORDERS.

LET THE OTHER PERSON SAVE FACE.NEVE PINPOINT MISTAKES IN FRONT.

PRAISE THE SLIGHTEST IMPROVEMENT AND PRAISE EVERY IMPROVEMENT. BE “HEARTY IN YOUR APPROBATION AND LAVISH IN YOUR PRAISE.”

GIVE THE OTHER PERSON A FINE REPUTATION TO LIVE UP TO.

USE ENCOURAGEMENT. MAKE THE FAULT SEEM EASY TO CORRECT.

MAKE THE OTHER PERSON HAPPY ABOUT DOING THE THING YOU SUGGEST.

STIMULATE COMPETITION AMONG CO-WORKERS.

BEGIN WITH PRAISE AND HONEST APPRECIATION.IT IS EASIER TO TAKE CRITICISM AFTER SOME PRAISE.

LOOK FOR THINGS DONE WELL BEFORE CALLING ATTENTION TO FAILINGS.

TALK ABOUT YOUR OWN MISTAKES BEFORE CRITICIZING THE OTHER PERSON.

THE BURDEN OF CRITICISM IS EASIER TO BEAR WHEN SHARED.

IT’S MOTIVATING WHEN ANOTHER HAS OVERCOME THE SAME CHALLENGES.

CALL ATTENTION TO PEOPLE’S ERRORS INDIRECTLY. DIRECT, HARSH CRITICISM CAN DESTROY INCENTIVE TO IMPROVE.

SUGGEST ALTERNATIVES: “HOW USER-FRIENDLY WILL THIS FEATURE WILL BE?”

SUGGEST THAT THE IDEA ISN’T FLAWED; IT’S THEENVIRONMENT OR SITUATION.

LET THE OTHER PERSON SAVE FACE. OTHERS WILL GET DEFENSIVE FOR FEAR OF BEING EMBARRASSED. ADDITIONALLY, ALWAYS TRY TO GIVE CRITICISM IN PRIVATE.

MAKE FAULTS SEEM EASY TO CORRECT AND NEW SKILLS EASY TO LEARN.

PRAISE THE SLIGHTEST IMPROVEMENT AND EVERY IMPROVEMENT.

PRAISE REINFORCES THE DEVELOPMENT OF A DESIRED BEHAVIOR.

MAKE PRAISE AS SPECIFIC AS POSSIBLE.

GIVE THE OTHER PERSON A FINE REPUTATION TO LIVE UP TO.

EXAMPLE: “YOU’RE QUITE CAPABLE, BUT YOUR RECENT PROJECTS AREN’T UP TO YOUR OLD STANDARDS.”

RESPECTING OTHERS’ CAPABILITIES WILL EMPOWER THEM TO SUCCEED

 BE SINCERE. DON’T PROMISE WHAT YOU CAN’T DO OR DELIVER.
 KNOW PRECIESLY WHAT IT IS YOU WANT THE OTHER PERSON TO DO. 

BE EMPATHETIC. TRY TO UNDERSTAND WHAT OTHERS WANT.
FOCUS ON ANY BENEFITS THE OTHER PERSON MIGHT RECEIVE.
 EXPLAIN HOW THOSE BENEFITS MATCH THE OTHER PERSON’S WANTS.

THE GENERAL MISTAKES DONE BY ALL IS ,THAT WE TAKE EVERY THING PERSONALWE HAVE NO TOLLERANCE OR PATIENCE TO HEAR CRITISIM ( SPECIALLY WHEN IN POWER) . WE ARE HYPOCRAT , DISHONEST , IN SENSE THAT WE LIKE THOSE ONLY WHO SAYS “YES SIR” THREE TIME AT THEIR ONE CALL , WE ENCOURAGE THOSE WHO FLATERS US , PRAISE US FALSELY , WHO WORKS AS OUR DOMESTIC SERVANTS .WE REJECT TALENT AND REWARD UPON PERSONAL LIKINGS AND DISLIKINGS.WE FOLLOW ‘NEPOTISM”.WE KEEP OUR EYES CLOSED , IGNORING FACTS DELIBRATEDLY , LIKE THAT RAT , WHO THINKS CAT HAVE NOT SEEN HIM.SO JUSTICE (UPON FACTS AND MERITS) IS ONE OF THE MAJOR FACT IMPACTING UPON PERSONALITY

WHY CERTAIN COUPLES LIVES HAPPILY FOR YEARS WITH ZERO TENSION? WHY MANY COUPLES END IN DIVORCE WITHIN A SHORT SPAN OF TIME? WHY DIVORCE RATIO IS BOOMING ALL WORLD? “SEPRATED” ARE IN DIPLORABLE CONDITION FACING MISERIES, CHILDRED ARE IN A STATE OF SHOCK AND HIGHLY DEPRESSED? PARENTS OF BRIDE AND GROOM ARE UNDER CONSTANT MENTAL TORTURE? WHAT WILL BE THE FATE OF CHILDREN ? HOW THEY WILL PROVE “RESPONSIBLE CITIZEN” (WHEN GROWN UP). WHAT WILL BE THEIR PERSONALITY? LACK OF PEACE IN HOME LIFE WILL IMPACT WHAT UPON THEIR PERSONALITY?

MAIN CORE IS TO LOOK FOR THE ROUTE CAUSES “ WHY TENSION TAKE PLACE INBETWEEN HUSBAND AND WIFE? LOOK AT WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHS OF THAT COUPLE, THEIR TEETH ARE OUT WITH JOY AND HAPPINESS, EYES OOZING LOVE AND PASSION, BOTH FULL OF THRILL. THEN WHY ALL TURNS INTO NEGATIVITY RESULTING IN “CONSTANT QURREL” IN HOME? WHY THE SWORN “HOLLY VERSUS” TURNS INTO ABUSES? WHY LOVE TURNS INTO HATERED? THE FACE, WHICH WAS RESEMBLED WITH “MOON” TURNS INTO “THE MOST UGLY, CURSED FACE” OF UNIVERSE? HUBBY BECOMES “ NUBBY”?

“ATTARCTION” AND “UNDERSTANDING” STANDS GAURANTEE FOR A STRONG RELATIONSHIP INBETWEEN LIFE PARTNERS. ATTRACTION OF ACTIONS, UNDERSTANDINGS, LOVING BEHAVIOUR AND TAKING CARE OF EACH OTHER, CONTRIBUTE FOR A PROLONGED RELATIONSHIP AS A HAPPY LIFE.

ABSENSE OF ABOVE MENTIONED PRACTICE IN BETWEEN PARTNERS LEADS TO A SLOW AND CASUAL INVOLVES IN NORMAL & DAILY ROUTINE, SYMPTOMISING ESCAPING. A PERSON HAS MAINLY TWO TASKS AFTER MARRIAGE; ONE FOR FAMILY AND OTHER FOR EARNING SOURCE. HE HAVE TO TAKE CARE BOTH EQUALLY WHILE KEEPING BOTH IN BALANCE AND SCALED, WHICH IS A TOUGH JOB ITSELF. ANY IMBALLLANCE IN BOTH WILL RESULT IN “DOMESTIC DISTURBANCE’’ AND TOO MANY COMPLICATION MAY ARISE.

WHEN A PERSON REACHES HOME LEAVING OFICE, HE EXPECTS THAT HIS WIFE SHOULD WELCOME HIM IN A FRESH MOOD, IN A CHEERFULL WAY, WHEREAS SHE IS ACTUALLY HEAVILY TIRED OF HARDSHIP “INDOOR ACTIVITIES, AND SPECIALLY IF SHE IS A WORKING LADY.NOW HUSBAND COULD NOT GET “EXPECTED SITUATION” SO, THIS SITUATION SOWS A “BITTER SEED” INBETWEEN, SO AN UN-ANNOUNCED, SYMPTOMLESS TENSION CREATES. HUSBAND WILL GO TO HIS ROOM AND STAY THERE SILENTLY, WHEREAS WIFE SILL STAY IN HER MOOD. THIS IS” LACK OF UNDERSTANDING / COMFIDENCE”. THIS SMALL PLANT WHEN TURNS INTO A TREE, ITS WILL PRODUCE FRUITS KNOWN AS “DIVORCE”.WISE COUPLE NOTIFIES THIS SITUATION UNDELAYED AND SOLVE THE PROBLEM AT VERY BEGNING WHEREAS “EEGO CONCIOUS” DOES NOT DISCUSS WITH EACH OTHER THINKING UN THEIR MIND THAT “ WHY HE IS NOT TAKING CARE OF ME? HE/SHE DOES NOT KNOW I AM TIRED”? AND THAT IS THE FIRST BITTER SEEED.

A DISAPPOINTMENT IS THE MAJOR FACTORS FOR FADING ATTRACTION TOWARDS HER. MEN TOO FACE THIS SITUATION WHEN THEY DEEPLY INVOLVE THEMSELVES IN THEIR RESPONSIBILITIES IN OFFICE OR ELSEWHERE. (EARNINGS)

FAILURE TO GIVE TIME FOR THE FAMILY OR WIFE IS A SERIOUS COMPLAINT, WOMAN IN THE HOUSE DOES NOT GRASP THUS BLAMES HUSBAND FOR THE NEGLIGENT AND CARELESS BEHAVIOUR. SPECIALLY WHEN WIVES PASS REMARKS IN A POCKING WAY OR IN SHAPE OF A SATIRE WHICH ENFUELS HUSBAND RAGE.IT IS KNOWN BY ALL THAT “RAGE PARALYSIS” HEAD AND QURREL STARTS WHICH MAY END AT DIRE CONSEQUENCES.IN SUCH CASES BOTH ARE EQUALLY RESPONSIBLE FOR DIEING AWAY ATTRACTION TO KEEP HEALTHY RELATION. ATTRACTION OF PARTNER NORMALLY FADES AS TIME PASSES; THIS IS NATURAL & THE REAL TRUTH.

FADING ATTRACTION DRIVES TO INCLINE TOWARDS FRESH AND NEW ATTRACTIONS , LIKE SECRATERIES OR OTHER FEMALE CO-WORKERS OR COLLEGUES. WHEN THIS NEWS FLASHES, IT ENFUELS WIFE .NOW HOME PEACE BECOMES DREAM. MAN SHOULD GRATIFY WIFE AT THIS STAGE TO FULFIL WHAT IS LOST. THOSE WHO ARE EXPOSED TO EXTERNAL ENVIRONMENT ARE EASILY DRAGGED TOWARDS THESE ATTRACTIONS.

EACH WORKING WOMAN OR MAN, ARE INFLUENCED BY EXTERNAL ATMOSPHERE, THEY ARE BOUND TO HATE OR APPROVE ONE OF MANY SHE/ HE MEETS OR CONTACTS . BEHAVIOUR OF AN INDIVIDUAL INFLUENCES OTHERS, TO OBSERVE AND ANALYSE PERSONALITY, AS GOOD OR BAD OR SO-SO; IN ALL CONDITIONS OF YES OR NO OR SO-SO, HAS THE ABILITY TO ATTRACT IN NEGATIVE OR POSITIVE ONE TO LIKE AND ANOTHER TO DESPISE, SO-SO ESCAPING FROM THIS SITUATION IS IMPOSSIBLE, AS THE BRAIN WAVE REACTS INSTANTLY TO ALARMING IT RIGHT OR WRONG. THE APPROVAL, DECIDES STATUS OF ACCEPTANCE / REJECTION OF THAT PERSONALITY, IN THE OFFICES OR OTHER WORK PLACE.ONE SHOULD BE OPEN MINDED, MEETING WITH NORMS OF SOCIETY, ALLOWING SPOUSES TO MEET THEIR COLLEAGUES OF BOTH SEXES.

HOWEVER, NO ONE CAN STOP IMAGINING THE DOMINANT PERSONALITY OF COLLEAGUE (OPPOSITE-SEX). THAT MEANS COLLEAGUE’S PERSONALITY HAS INFLUENCED ENOUGH TO REMEMBER AND ENTERED IN THE LIFE. NOW WORKING WOMAN/ MAN MAINTAINS RELATION WITH TWO, ONE PHYSICAL RELATION AND WORKING MEN AND WOMEN SPEND MORE ON WORKING HOURS THAN STAYING WITH SPOUSE. SPEND MOST OF THEIR DAY WITH THEM EATING, CHATTING, AND JOKING ETC; THESE DEVELOP WARM RELATION TO STEP FURTHER TO GET CLOSER, WHICH IS NOTICED BY THE VICINITY. THIS REPUTATION MAY IMPACT NEGATIVE OR POSITIVE, AND IN BOTH WAY IT SHAKES HOME PEACE.(EXCEPTIONS ARE ALWAYS THERE)

WORKING WOMAN OF STRONG CHARACTER HAVING HAPPY MARRIED LIFE LIMITS OTHERS TO MOVE FORWARD AND STRONG CHARACTER WITH SHATTERED MARRIED LIFE WILL DEFINITELY MOVE FORWARD TO GET CLOSER, WILL NOT EVEN CARE THE SOCIAL IMPACT. NEVER FORGET, GOD CREATED WOMEN WITH SOFT CLAY, THEY ARE MUCH WEAKER IN NERVOUS SYSTEM, EMOTIONS, AS COMPARED TO MAN.IT IS VERY EASY TO TRAP THEM WHEN DISTURBED OR UPSET, SPECIALLY IN DOMESTIC LIFE.WOMEN TRUSTS SOON, SO BETRAYED SOON.

ON THE OTHER HAND WOMAN OF WEAK CHARACTERS ARE EASILY MOTIVATED TO LUXURY OF EMOTIONS IRRESPECTIVE OF HOME ATMOSPHERE. AS FAR AS MEN ARE CONCERNED MAJOR PERCENTAGE BELIEVE IF SHE AGREES I WILL NOT MISS THE GOLDEN OPPORTUNITY. THOSE WHO CARE OF POUSES, WILL KEEP SECRET RELATIONSHIP AVOID ANY CLASH IN DOMESTIC LIFE.

ENVIRONMENTAL EFFECT OF HOME AND SPOUSE, IF STRONGER HE/SHE INCLINES TOWARDS HOME AND IF NOT THE AFFECTION STARTS WITH THE COLLEAGUE. COLLEAGUE’S INITIATION HELPS TO ESTABLISH UNION, SOME MANAGE SECRET RELATION AND SOME DARE TO GET RID OF OLD RELATIONSHIP OPENLY.

SEXUAL APPETITE IS ESSENTIAL NEED OF AN ADULT. SOME ARE CONTENT AND SOME HAVE GREAT DESIRE DUE TO GENETIC CHARACTERISTIC, FOR THEM CONTROLLING SEXUAL DESIRE IS VERY DIFFICULT. THEY NEED TO EXTINGUISH THEIR HUNGER SO ARE IN SEARCH AND HUNT FOR BUDDIES.

MOST WOMEN CONTROL THEIR SEXUAL DESIRES DESPITE INADEQUATE HUNGER; SUCH PEOPLE ARE GENERALLY UPSET, RESTLESS, TEDIOUS IN THEIR NORMAL LIFE.

SEXUAL HUNGER IS A NATURAL PROCESS CONNECTED WITH BODY AND BRAIN, AS ONLY THE RELIEF IS BY THE PROCESS SO NOT EASY TO CONTROL.UNNATURAL CONTROLLING MAY LEAD TO MAJOR PSYCHOLOGICAL DISEASES SUCH AS DEPRESSION, SICKNESS AND LIFELESSNESS ETC; ARE ENOUGH TO INVITE BLOOD PRESSURE, MENTAL AND PHYSICAL PROBLEMS ETC

IT DOES NOT MEAN THOSE WHO FOLLOW SOCIAL NORMS ARE HONEST, THEY TOO HAVE THE FEELINGS AND DESIRES WHICH THEY REPRESS IN ORDER TO AVOID FACING SOCIAL CONSEQUENCES, INDICATES THEY ARE EMOTIONALLY PREPARED FOR RELATION BUT SOCIAL BOUNDARIES DO NOT PERMIT.

IT IS EMOTIONAL SUICIDE IN ORDER TO AVOID PHYSICAL SUICIDE; EACH OF US HAS A DESIRE FOR FULFILMENT OF EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL NEEDS BECAUSE OUR BODY AND BRAIN CELLS REQUIRE THEM FOR SMOOTH FUNCTIONING.

BOTH SOCIAL ACCOUNTABILITY AND THE ENTITY CLASH IN OUR MIND, WHICH EVER OVERPOWERS – DIRECTS US TO ACT. FOR WOMEN; IN MOST CASES SOCIAL ACCOUNTABILITY COMES FORWARD AND SHE KILLS OWN DESIRES. SHE INDULGES ONLY IN CASE OF AWFUL RELATION OR VENGEANCE OR TOO STRONG ATTRACTION CONQUERS.

FOR THE CHEATED PARTNER IT IS INFIDELITY AS LONG AS CHEATER IS LIVING AND SHARING FAMILY AFFAIRS. IT IS NATURAL THAT NO ONE WOULD WISH PARTNER TO SHARE SEXUAL EMOTIONS AND RELATION WITH SOMEONE ELSE, IT HURTS AND GIVES PAIN TO THE HEART AS BOTH ARE ASSETS OF EACH OTHER.

RELATION BREAKS AS NO ONE WOULD PREFER TO STAY TOGETHER WITH DISHONEST COMPANION UNLESS ONE IS SO GRATEFUL TO FORGIVE AND FORGET THE DISHONESTY. AS LONG AS THERE ARE WIFE AND HUSBAND AND MARRIAGE; EXTRA MARITAL RELATION WILL IN ILLEGAL – DECEITFUL AND WILL BE CALLED “INFIDELITY”.

AS FOR BOTH WIFE AND HUSBAND, IT IS AN ISSUE OF DEPENDABILITY, SECURITY, EMOTION OF TOGETHERNESS AS WIFE AND HUSBAND, SHARING AND SACRIFICING LIFE TO MAINTAIN FAMILY AND STATUS POP AND MOM. WOMEN ARE MORE CONCERNED AS FAMILY IS THEIR SECURITY, TOGETHERNESS AND LIFE.

ALL DREAMS OF FAMILY AND ITS FUTURE COLLAPSES IN CASE OF ANY ONE SWITCHES TO EXTRA MARITAL RELATION. THIS BECOMES DISHONESTY MARRIED FAMILY. EACH OF FIND THE REASONS AS WHY DID SHE/HE GO FOR IT WAS HE/SHE NOT HAPPY.
MAKE YOUR HOME A PARADISE
FINANCIAL CRISES OR LESS EARNING LEADS TO “HOME DISTURBANCE. COUPLE SHOULD DISCUSS AND GET NEW SOURCE TO EARN MORE, OR RESCHEDULING BUDGET OR CURTAILING EXPANSE.

TRY TO SPEND MAXIMUM POSSIBLE TIME AT HOME WITH FAMILY IN A HAPPY MOOD, TELLING JOKES AND SHARING DAILY ROUTINE EXPERIENCES, INCIDENTS IN LIGHT MODE.

WHEN GET SALARY, OR EARN SOME EXTRA, DO BRING SOME GIFT FOR WIFE, MAY BE SMALL. THIS PRACTICE WILL DEVELOPE A POSITIVE SENSE IN WIFE THAT HUSBAND CARES HER A LOT.

WHENEVER CONVENIENT, PLAN AN OUTDOOR TRIP, MAY BE THE NEARES PARK, IT WILL EXPOSE YOUR LOVE WITH FAMILY.

TAKE A LOT CARE OF INLAWS, THIS IS THE MOST SENSATIVE, WEAK POINT OF WIFE / HUSBAND. BRINGING GIFTS FOR MOTHER INLAW / SISTERS INLAW WILL INCREASE YOUR WORTH / RESPECT.

COOK DELICIOUS FOOD, BECAUSE LOVE OOZES FROM STOMACHS OF HUSBANDS.FAVOURITE DISH LEADS TO EXTREME LOVE. IT WILL SHOW YOUR DEDICATION TOO.

WOMEN LIVE IN HOME WAITING LONG-LONG FOR SPOUSE, SO GETS BORE. THEY MUST BE PROVIDED SOME EXTRA CURRICULAR ACTIVITES.

DO NOT OBJECT UPON WIFE FRIEND . IN CASE OF ANY GENUINE SERIOUS OBJECTION, MAKE UNDERSTAND YOUR WIFE WITH FIRM EVIDENCE AND CONVINCE HER LOGICALLY.REST SHE WILL MANAGE HER SELF.

EVERY ONE IS HONEST AS LONG AS DOESN’T GET THE OPPORTUNITY. MOST PREFER TO FOLLOW SOCIAL NORMS AND DO

CHANGE PARTNER MIND, INVITE AND MOTIVATE HIS/HER INVOLVING IN FAMILY ACTIVITIES. GO TO SOME THEATER , CINEMA OR NEARBY PARK.

THINK HOME AND KIDS BEFORE GETTING ATTRACTED OR FALLING IN LOVE WITH ANYONE. – STRONG CHARACTERS WILL RESTRICT TO LIMITATIONS (IF YOU HAVE).

INCREASE EMOTIONAL INVOLVEMENT OF THE PARTNER TOWARDS FAMILY BY REMINDING RESPONSIBILITIES AND EMOTIONAL TOUCH UP.

PSYCHOLOGICAL TREATMENT OF WEAK CHARACTER OF SEXUALLY ADDICTED PARTNER.

RESPECT THE ENTITY AND INTEGRITY OF A PARTNER.

WRONG AND CRUEL HOME ATMOSPHERE LEADS TO MANY AGONIES. TRY TO CHANGE IN SOFT AND SYMPATHETIC.

MANY WOMEN IN THE OFFICES ARE INFLUENCED BY BOSSES INVITING FOR MALAFIDE INTENSIONS. THIS “ UNCOMMON” BEHAVIOUR IS COMMON IN MANY OFFICES. UNDER THESE CIRCUMSTANCES HUSBAND IS BEST.HE SHOULD ADVICE WIFE HOW TO TACKLE SITUATION. RISKING JOB IS NO MATTER IF HUSBAND PREFERS TO HANDLE LEGALLY WITH SUCH BOSSES.THESE “CORRUPT” BOSSES RAE BASICALLY VERY COWARD BY NATURE. A SLIGHT THREAT FROM WOMEN WILL MAKE THEM “PISSIN”. THERE THE WOMEN MUST BE BOLD ENOUGH.

NOTHING IS GOOD OR BAD, THE WAY WE THINK, BRAIN PRODUCES THE SAME. IF YOU SEE A CLOSE RELATIVE LADY TRAVELLING IN CAR WITH A STRANGER, WHAT YOU WILL THINK? SURELY NEGATIVE —— YOU WILL CHASE THAT CAR AND BRING GUN OUT TO FIRE? THE SAME RELATIVE LADY WILL CRY OF, INFORMING THAT HE IS THE PERSON WHO SAVED HER FROM CERTAIN ROUDIES, TRYING TO KIDNAP HER? AND HE WAS ON THE WAY TO DROP HER AT HOME SAFELY! NOW WHAT WOULD BE YOUR REACTION? NOW YOUR GUN WILL GO DOWN AND YOU WILL START PAYING THANKS. WHAT IS ALL THIS?

MAKE UP MIND, “SOME TIMES WHAT YOUR EYES SEE, IS NPT CORRECT. NEVER ALLOW EMOTIONS TO RULE YOU, BUT YOU RULE EMMOTIONS. DO NOT BELIEVE UNLESS SURE, VERY SIMILAR TO INTERNATIONAL LAW “ ALL ARE INNOCENT UNLESS PROVED GUILTY” SO MAKE UP YOUR MIND, YOU WILL NEVER DIVORCE , UNLESS OTHERVIZ “INEVITABLE”.

THE “INTERVIEW” AND “EXAMINATION”  ARE THE  MOST TERRIFC SITUATIONS FOR A CANDIDATE, WHERE HE HAVE TO UNDERGO A MENTAL “UPSETNESS”–.WHAT IS THIS INTERVIEW? ? THE AUTHENTICATE DICTIONARIES ELOBRATES WORD “INTER” WITH MEANINGS AS –“BETWEEN” OR “AMONG” OR “PLACE IN A GRAVE OR TOMB” ! WHEREAS “VIEW” IS DESCRIBED AS “A WAY OF, REGARDING SITUATION OR TOPIC – THE VISUAL PERCEPT OF A REGION – THE ACT OF LOOKING OR SEEING OR OBESERVING (TO GET A BETTER VIEW) AND LASTLY THE RANGE OF EYE    ( THEY WERE SOON OUT OF VIEW).SO WE CAN TRANSLATE “INTERVIEW” AS  “THE ACT OF LOOKING OR SEEING / OBSERVING TO GET A BETTER VIEW SITTING AMONG OR IN FRONT IN DIRECT VISIBILITY”.

PSYCHOLOGICALLY, WHEN A PERSON VISITS OR GOES TO A NEW PLACE    (SPECIALLY FOR JOB) HE FEELS SOME FEAR (NOT FROM INTERVIEWER, BUT FROM THE “SITUATION” WHERE HE MAY GET JOB OR CAN BE REJECTED.THIS FEAR TURNS INTO A “HYPER PHOBIC” CONDITION AMOUNTING TO HEIGHTS OF “UNEASE” , WHEREAS INTERVIEWER IS AT COMFORTABLE , STABLE POSITION (AS HE IS ON JOB) BUT INTERVIEWEE AT AN “ODD” POSITION.NONE CAN DENY THIS FACT THAT INTERVIEWEE IS AT A “WEAKER” POSITION AS COMPARED TO INTERVIEWER , THIS DIFFERNCE NATURALLY CONFUSES CANDIDATE , WHICH PRODUCES  “EMBARRASSMENT”.EVEN A  P.H.D MAY CONFUSE IN FRONT OF A GRADUATE ( SUBJECTED AND CONDITIONAL WITH CANDIDATE FINANCIAL BACKGROUND ( HOW MUCH NEEDY HE IS ) , THE “NEED” DECIDE THE APPARENT STATUS OF CANDIDATE., MORE NEEDY MEANS “MORE  BE EMBARRASSED AND CONFUSED” UNDER THIS STAE OF “UNCERTAINTY” MAY CAUSE FAILURE IN INTERVIEW.( THIS SITUATION APPLIES ONLY UPON NEW CANDIDATES , APPEARING  FIRST TIME FOR INTERVIEW)

LET AS CATEGORIES THE PERSONALITIES.REFFERING TO MANY NEWS PAPERS (CRIME REPORTS) , THOSE PEOPLE INVOLVED IN FRAUDS , CHEATING , FAKE DOCUMENTATION WERE FOUND MORE INTELLIGENT , SHARP , AND ACTIVE AS COMPARED TO NORMAL.JUST FOR EXAMPLE  IF SUCH CATEGORY PERSON APPEARS FOR INTERVIEW , WILL HE FAIL ? ? ABSOLUTELY NOT. BECAUSE INTERVIEWER WILL FIND HIM EXTRA CONFIDENT, VERY SWEET IN TALKING, ACTIVE ND SMART IN PERSONALITY! ! THEN WHAT WILL BE FATE OF THAT COMPANY WHERE RECRUITED? ? (JUST TYPE “ FRAUD BY EMPLOYEES” ON GOOGLE TO GET EVIDENCE IN SUPPORT OF MY DISCUSSION).

I STILL REMEMBER WHEN I APPLED FOR THE POST OF A “MANAGER” IN AN ELECTRONIC EQUIPMENT MANUFACTURING COMPANY IN 1984.THERE WERE TWO INTERVIEWER (BOTH BROTHERS AND OWNERS). THEY ASKED ME WHETHER I KNOW “ABC’ TILL END? ? I SMILED AND SOUNDED A-Z . NEXT QUESTION WAS “ WHY YU WANT TO JOIN THIS COMPANY”? MY REPLY WAS “BECAUSE YOU ADVERTISED” .I DNT WANT TO WASTE THE TIME OF READERS IN WRITING THE FOOLISH QUESTIONS THEY ASKED.

IT IS NOT END, LET ME DISCUSS OTHER INCIDENT TOO.” JOINED AUTOMOTIVE COMPANY OF HIGH REPUTE IN GULF. AFTER SOME TIME THAT COMPANY ADVERTISED THE POST OF A “MANAGER” IN ITS SISTER CONCERN DEALING IN SOME OTHER BRAND OF AUTOMOTIVE PARTS (INTERNAL VACANCY).I APPLED FOR THAT ON A SIMPLE PRESCRIBED FORM.I WAS CALLED FOR AN “INTERVIEW”, IN INTERVIEW BOARD THREE MEMBERS WERE THERE , G.M , SENIOR MANAGER AND A “H.R SPECIALIST” I WAS NOT A STRANGER OF ALL THAT THREE PEOPLE. THE FIRST QUESTION ASKED BY SENIOR MANGER WAS “ HOW YOU WILL PROMOTE SALE “ ( THE POST WAS FOR MANAGER AND ABSOLUTELY NOT FOR SALES MANAGER) I TOLD HIM ELEVEN POINTS IN WRITING , HE FORCED ME TO EXPALIN POINTWISE.ANYWAY I EXPLAINED THOROUGHLY.NOW GM TURNED TO ME AND ASKED “ WHY YOU WANT TO LEAVE YOUR EXISTING JOB ? ? I TOLD HIM FOR BETTER PROSPECTS .. THAT SPECIALIST WAS LOOKING AT MY FACE AND LASTLY THAT “BURTRAINED RUSSEL” ASKED “ MR…….HOW YOU PERCIVE IF YOU GET THIS JOB ? ? I SIZZLED , LOOKED AT HIS FACE AND REPLIED ‘ PLEASED”.THAT INTERVIEW REMAINED ONLY INTERVIEW , NO REPLY FROM H.R.D , OR MY BOSS ( ACCEPTANCE OR REJECTION) AFTER SOME TIMES I CAME TO KNOW THAT SUPPLIER COMPANY HAVE CANCELLED THEIR FRANCHISE , G.M AND MANGER ARE NO MORE WHEREAS “SPECIALIST” HAVE JOINED ANOTHER COMPANY.

THE SAME COMPANY IN WHICH I WAS WORKING , ADVERTISED HALF PAGE ADD IN A LOCAL ENGLISH NEWS PAPER, INVITING APPLICATION FOR “SALES SUPERVISOR”.HUNDREDS OF APPLICATIONS RECEIVED , INTERVIEWD, AND FINALLY SELECTED A PERSON., SON OF GM CLOSE FRIEND LIVING A FEW YARDS DISTANCE FROM HIS HOME PLACE.ALL CAN JUDGE THE ORIGON OF THAT INTERVIEW. IS IT LOYALITY TO COMPANY ? ? IS IT NOT MISUSE OF POWER OR  BREACH OF TRUST ? ?

I AM OF THE OPINION , THAT INTERVIEW IS A GET -TOGETHER SESSION OF CANDIDATE AND EMPLOYEER , WHERE INTERVIEWER HAVE TO ADJUGE THE PERSONALITY , APPEARANCE , DRESSING , WALKING AND CONVERSATIONAL STYLE OF CANDIDATE..INSTEAD OF “STUPID QUESTION” INTERVIEWER SHOULD GIVE HIM A TOPIC , ASKING TO WRITE FEW LINES ON THAT SUBJECT.THIS PRACTICE WILL ENLIGHT THE CALIBRE , WRITING POWER , EXPRESSION , ART OF COMMUNICATION , WRITING GRIP ETC ETC.

THE BEST TECHNIQUE TO WIN INTERVIEW AT 100 % IS :-

A REPUTED COMPANY ADVERTISED FOR POST OF A FINANCIAL ANALYST. PACKAGE WAS HANSOME , SO NATURALLY MANY APPLICATIONS RECEIVED.THE INTERVIEWER WAS CALLING ONE BY ONE AND SKING A SIPLE QUESTION “ PLEASE TELL WHAT IS TOTAOL OF TWO PLUS TWO

( 2 + 2 = ? ) ALL TOLD FOUR —————-HE DIRECTED ALL TO SIT OUTSIDE AND WAIT — LAST CANDIDATE LEFT, HE WAS CALLED FOR AN INTERVIEW , AND ASKED THE SAME QUESTION AS WHAT IS TOTAL OF TWO PLUS TWO ? ?

THAT CANDIDATE REMAINED SILENT , LEFET HIS SEAT , HAD A ROUND OF ROOM , CLOSED ENTRANCE DOOR , ASSURED THAT NONE IS PRESENT EVEN NEAR BY ROOM —- CAME CLOSE TO THE INTERVIEWER AND WHISPERED “ SIR , LET THE TOTAL GO TO HELL , ONLY INFORM WHAT TOTAL  YOU WANT ! ! WHICH CAN SATISFY YOU” !  

AND THAT CANDIDATE WAS SELECTED IMMEDIATLEY

HAPPINESS –

IS THE MOST BEUTIFULL WORD OF THE DAY.IF WE THINK HONESTLY , LIFE IS TRAVELLING FROM “TOUGH TO TOUGHEST”.  ALL LOOK FOR A MOMENT OF HAPPINESS WHICH MAY PROVIDE THEM AN OPPORTUNITY TO LAUGH. I MEAN HAHAHAHAH. BUT NO CHANCE? AS A RESULT, UNKNOWN, STRANGE, COMPLICATED, NEVER PRECEDENTED DISEASES ARE APPEARING? SEE AROUND, ALL FACES ARE STRETCHED, SCARED, TENSIONFULL? FOR WHAT WE ARE SEARCHING FOR? WHAT CAN MAKE US HAPPY? OUR FOUR FATHERS GREW AND DIED IN A HEALTHY ATMOSPHERE! WHY WE ARE UNDER HEART ATTACKS? NERVOUS BRAKE DOWN OR SUCH COMPLICATE DISEASES? WHY WE ALL ARE AFTER MONEY? IS MONEY THE ULTIMATE SOLUTION OF OUR AGONIES? CAN WE BUY HAPPINESS, HEALTH, PEACE OF MIND WITH MONEY? IS MONEY PENACEA AGAINST ALL FEELINGS? ABSLOLUTELY NOT MOST PEOPLE FEEL HAPPY ONLY WHEN THEIR MATERIAL DESIRES ARE SATISFIED.THAT HAPPINESS BRINGS A SENSATION THAT HAS LITTLE TO DO WITH EXTERNAL FORCES, SUCH AS WHAT WE POSSES AND WHAT WE EARN.INSTEAD,IT IS AN EMOTIONAL STATE THAT WE CAN TURN OFF AND ON AT OUR WILL BY EMBRACING THE TALENT AND AVAILABLE OPPERTUNITIES, INSTEAD OF CLINGING TO THE PAIN WE HAVE SUFFERED IN THE PAST.WE CAN CREATE FUN AND JOY AT ANY TIME, AT ANT SPOT WHICH WILL HELP YOU TO GET TRUE HAPPINESS.

IF MONEY IS SO IMPORTANT, THEN NO RICH SHOULD HAVE DEPRESSION, NERVOUS BRAKE DOWN, WHICH IS A CONCRETE EVIDENCE THAT MONEY IS NOT THE ABSOLUTE SOLUTION. WE ARE CONDITIONED TO BE RICH (INSPITE OF KNOWLEDGE THAT RICH ARE ALSO NOT HAPPY, WE WISH TO BUY ALL LUXRIES AND FACILITIES DISPLAYED AT TELEVISIONS SO AS TO IMPROVE OUR LIFE STLE AND STATUS.( TO SHOW OTHERS)

BE SURE, NONE OF THAT WILL BRING HAPPINESS, NO MATTER HOW MUCH WE EARN, NO MATTER HOW MUCH WE RUN, NO MATTER HOW MUCH BANK BALANCE WE HAVE, NO MATTER HOW NICE IS OUR WEARING / CAR. NONE OF THESE WILL MAKE US HAPPY AND THE SAD THING IS THAT IT COULD TAKE US DECADES OF PURSUING WEALTH AND LUXRY ITEMS BEFORE WE REALIZE.

THEN QUESTION IS HOW WE CAN GET HAPPINESS? I AM OF THE OPINION THAT GOD CREATED HUMANITY FOR CERTAIN REASONS, AND THAT MAY BE :-

GOOD RELATIONSHIP.

WE HAVE A HUMAN NEED TO BE CLOSE, TO BE INTIMATE, WITH OTHER HUMAN BEINGS. HAVING GOOD, SUPPORTIVE FRIENDSHIPS, A STRONG CONNECTION OR CLOSE AND LOVING RELATIONSHIPS WITH OUR FAMILY MEMBERS WILL MAKE US MUCH MORE LIKELY TO BE HAPPY. ACTION STEPS: TAKE TIME, TODAY, TO SPEND TIME WITH YOUR LOVED ONES, TO TELL THEM WHAT THEY MEAN TO YOU, TO LISTEN O THEM, AND DEVELOP YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM.

POSITIVE THINKING.

I’M OBVIOUSLY A BIG PROPONENT OF POSITIVE THINKING AS THE BEST WAY TO ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS, BUT IT TURNS OUT THAT IT CAN LEAD TO HAPPINESS TOO. OPTIMISM AND SELF-ESTEEM ARE SOME OF THE BEST INDICATORS OF PEOPLE WHO LEAD HAPPY LIVES. HAPPY PEOPLE FEEL EMPOWERED, IN CONTROL OF THEIR LIVES, AND HAVE A POSITIVE OUTLOOK ON LIFE. ACTION STEPS: MAKE POSITIVE THINKING A HABIT. IN FACT, THIS SHOULD BE ONE OF THE FIRST HABITS YOU DEVELOP. GET INTO THE HABIT OF SQUASHING ALL NEGATIVE THOUGHTS AND REPLACING THEM WITH POSITIVE ONES. INSTEAD OF “I CAN’T” THINK “I CAN”. IT MAY SOUND CORNY, BUT IT HAS WORKED FOR ME, EVERY TIME.

FLOW

WHEN WE ENTER WE ARE COMPLETELY FOCUSED ON THE WORK OR TASK BEFORE US. WE ARE SO IMMERSED IN OUR TASK THAT WE LOSE TRACK OF TIME. HAVING WORK AND LEISURE THAT GETS YOU IN THIS STATE OF FLOW WILL ALMOST UNDOUBTEDLY LEAD TO HAPPINESS. PEOPLE FIND GREATEST ENJOYMENT NOT WHEN THEY’RE PASSIVELY MINDLESS, BUT WHEN THEY’RE ABSORBED IN A MINDFUL CHALLENGE.

ACTION STEP:

FIND WORK THAT YOU’RE PASSIONATE ABOUT. SERIOUSLY — THIS IS AN EXTREMELY IMPORTANT STEP. FIND HOBBIES THAT YOU’RE PASSIONATE ABOUT. SUSPEND THE CURRENT ACTIVITY — THIS IS THE OPPOSITE OF FLOW — AND GET OUTSIDE AND DO SOMETHING THAT TRULY ENGAGES YOU, FOR SAKE OF A CHANGE.

NOW GO TO SITUATION AS GOING TO TELL YOU RIGHT NOW.-A YOUNG BOY RIDING ON CYCLE IS PASSING A ROAD WHERE A CAR HITS HIM AND AS RESULT HE LOOSES HIS ONE LEG. WHAT HE HAVE TO DO ? ? BY REPENTANCE CAN HE GET HIS LEG BACK? DO HE HAVE ANYOTHER OPTION BUT TO ACCEPT REALITY? SURELY HE WILL BE A PSYCHO. ON OTHER HAND IF HE ACCEPTS SITUATION AND FACES IT AS FATE. HE WILL DO BEST TO ACHIEVE AIMS OF LIFE.TO PROVE THIS, I WOULD REQUEST ALL TO VISIT OR MEET SUCH PEOPLE, STRANGELY, YOU WILL FIND THEM MORE HAPPY COMPARING TO OTHERS. BECAUSE THEY HAVE “ADJUSTED” AND CONTENTED UPON SITUATION.

HAPPINESS IS A STATE OF MIND:

IN IS GENERAL PRESUMPTION THAT HAPPINESS IS BASED UPON ACHIEVEMENTS AND EARNINGS LIKE ——– I WILL BE HAPPY IF I GET A NEW CAR, OR JOB . THEN WISH WILL L INCREASE  TO —- I WILL BE HAPPY IF I GET MAREVOLOUS HOUSE / PLAZA OR SUPER MARKET.WHEN YOU GET ALL THEN? SO DEAR, HAPPINESS IS NOT A “HAPPENING”BUT A STATE OF MIND. YOU CAN HAVE EVERY THING IN THE WORLD AND STILL BE MISERABLE, OR YOU CAN HAVE RELATIVELY LITTLE AND FEEL UNBOUNDED HAPPINESS ! ! JUST AS LEARNING ANY NEW SKILL JOB, YOU HAVE TO BE WILLING TO INVEST SERIOUS EFFORTS TO ACHIEVE REAL HAPPINESS.ONE MUST LERAN “CONTENTMENT”, TRY TO BE CONTENTED BY ENJOYING ALL THAT WHAT YOU HAVE, MAY YOU LOOSE MOTIVATION. BEWARE, HAPPINESS DOES NOT DRAIN YOUR ENERGY, BUT ADDS MORE. JUST EXAMPLE A MAN BOUGHT ONE NEW CAR IF HE INVITES A HAPPY PERSON FOR A LONG DRIVE, HE WILL ACCEPT IMMEDIATELY, BUT OTHER PASSIVE WILL REFUSE TO GO UPON LAME PRETEXTS.LOOK AT OTHER ASPECT TOO . CANY YOU BUY EYESIGHT , SENSE TO SMELL,ANY BODY LIMB  OR TREAT AIDS ? ?NO , ABSOLUTELY NOT . THEN WHAT THE HELL IS MONEY ? 

HAPPINESS EXERCISE.

JUST INCREASE YOUR APPRECIATION OF LIFE.PINPONT SOME THINGS YOUR ARE EXTEMELY GRATEFULL FOR, AND COUNT THEM EVERY MORNING BEFORE LEAVING BED. THE THINGS ARE: YOUR HANDS, EYES,OTHER BODY LIMBS, FAMILY MEMBERS, SET ASIDE A FEW MINUTES EACH DAY TO CONTEMPLATE THESE PLEASURES AND FEELINGS. SIT WITH YOUR LOVE ONES EVERY EVENING AND DISCUSS ONE LEASURE THAT EACH OF YOU HAD THAT DAY. SHARE ALL FEELONGS AND SEE MIRCLEOUS RESULTS.

PRIORTIZE YOUR BLESSINGS

TO BECOME A REAL EXPERT AT APPRECIATIONS, PRIORTIZE YOUR LIST WHICH IS MORE VALUEABLE. YOUR BODY LIMBS, EYES, NOSE? SENSE OF TASTE? OR TOUCH COMPARING PLEASURE FORCE YOU TO ARTICULATE THE SUBTLE OF EAC H ONE.ALWAYS BE THANKFULL TO ALMIGHTY UPON THESE BLESSINGS THAT YOU CAN SEE, SMELL, TASTE, WALK, EAT , THINK NORMALLY.STILL YOU WILL SAY YOU ARE POOR ! !

TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR MISTAKES:

WE FEEL FEAR THAT OTHERS WILL DISLIKE US WHEN WE MAKE MISTAKES, SO WE TORTURE OURSELVES BY TRYING TO HIDE OR DENY THEM.WHEREAS FACT IS THAT PEOPLE DISLIKES THE EXCUSES AND THE FALSE SHIELDS TO COVERUP OUR MISTAKES. OWING UP TO YOUR MISTAKES SHOWS YOU CARE AND HELPS BRING RESOLUTION AND HEALING. IT ALSO REFLECTS YOUR SENSE OF RESPOSIBILITIES. AS A TRUTHFULL PERSON. FORGIVE YOURSELF FIRST: WHICH IS PROBABLY
A BIGGEST HURDLE. MISTAKES ARE TOUGH ON SELF ESTEEM IF YOU INTEND TO BE PERFECT. HOWEVER, NONE GETS THROUGH LIFE WITHOUT MAKING MISTAKES AND SOMETIMES BLUNDERS. APOLOGISE
AND RECTIFY ERROR, AVOID CLARIFICATION OR ARGUMENTS. OTHER WILL WELCOME YOU AND HELP, AND YOU WILL FEEL HAPPIER WITH YOURSELF FOR TAKING CONSTRUCTIVE ACTION. THINK MOST RECENT MISTAKE YOU MADE:IF YOU HAVE NOT MADE AMENDS, ITS PROBABLY NOT TOO LATE TO SAY “I M SORRY””

STAY INCHARGE OF YOUR THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS:

ALTHOUGH YOU CAN NOT CONTRO; EVENTS, YOU CAN MANAGE YOUR REACTIONS TO THEM. ONLY YOU CAN DECIDE WHETHER TO CHOOSE HARMONY OR TURMOIL.

USE MENTAL IMAGERY:

HOLDING A POSITIVE IMAGE IN YOUR MIND CROWDS OUT NEGATIVITY, AND POSITIVE THOUGHTS HAVE BEEN SHOWN TO CREATE HAPPIER FEELINGS.TAKE A TIME-OUT. GO FOR A NATURE WALK.
SITE SCENES. THE OUTDOORS IS A NATURAL TONIC. OR MEDITATE, LISTEN TO MUSIC OR GIVE YOURSELF A PEP TALK.

BE FIRM THAT YOU CAN OVERCOME OBSTACLES EASILY.

WHY GIVE UP IN DESPAIR

WHEN NATURE CONSTANTLY GIVES US THE HOPEFUL MESSAGES ? THAT WE CAN ALWAYS FIND A WAY? WHERE THERE IS A PROBLEM THERE IS A WAY. LOOK FOR IT. EVERYONE OF US FACES AGONIES, URDLES,PROBLEM IN LIFE. THE UNHAPPY CHOICE IS TO LET THEM STOP YOU BELIEVING YOU CAN FIND AN OPENING TO GROW AND BLOSSOM, THE JOYOUS, LIFE AFFIRMING OPTION.

BE OPEN TO REDIRECTIONS:

WHEN THINGS DON’T GO AS YOU HAVE PLANNED, STOP AND THINK WHERE THIS DIFFERENT PATH MIGHT BE LEADING YOU. EVENTS THAT AT FIRST SEEM TO BE UNFORTUNATE OR UNDESIRABLE MAY ACTUALLY PROVIDE SURPRISING ADVANTAGES.

TAKE EACH PROBLEM AS AN OPPORTUNITY TO GROW:

MANY PATIENTS I’VE TREATED AND COUNSELED OVER THE YEARS HAVE SAID THEIR ILLNESSES TAUGHT THEM TO VALUE THEIR LIVES AND IMPLEMENT WONDERFUL CHANGES.YOU DON’T HAVE TO “BREAK THROUGH THE PAVEMENT” IN A SINGLE DAY. TAKE TROUBLES ONE STEP AT A TIME. CELEBRATE EACH SIGN OF PROGRESS BEFORE TAKING THE NEXT STEP.

DEAL CONSTRUCTIVELY WITH CRITICISM:

“SUFI POET “MOULANA ROOMI” WRITES CRITICISM POLISHES MY MIRROR.”REGARDING CRITICISM AS A THREAT, AN INSULT OR PROOF THAT YOU’RE WORTHLESS WON’T MAKE YOU HAPPY. INSTEAD,
IT IS BETTER TO TAKE A MORE OPTIMISTIC VIEW AND SEE CRITICISM AS A LEARNING TOOL TO HELP YOU IMPROVE.I’VE BEEN FORTUNATE TO HAVE MANY CRITICS AMONG MY PATIENTS. WHEN PEOPLE GIVE YOU CRITICISM, IT MEANS THEY FEEL YOU ARE WILLING TO LISTEN AND CHANGE.EVALUATE THE SOURCE OF THE CRITICISM. THOSE WHO LOVE FINDING FAULT WITH EVERYONE WILL ONLY SCRATCH YOUR MIRROR, NOT POLISH IT.WHEN CRITICIZED BY PEOPLE YOU TRUST, THINK OF YOURSELF AS AN ATHLETE GETTING DIRECTION AND SUPPORT FROM A COACH WHO WANTS TO SEE YOU PERFORM BETTER. DON’T LET CRITICISM SHAKE YOUR CONFIDENCE.
USE APPRAISALS AS A WAY TO HELP YOUR EACHA HIGHER LEVEL OF PERFORMANCE.

ONE HOUR BLESSING FEST.

THIS EXERCISE MAY BE SLIGHT TOUGH- SPEND SOME TIME WRITING DOWN EVERYTHING FOR WHICH YOU ARE GRATEFULL.ONCE THE LIST IS COMPLETED, ADD ONE NEW BLESSING EACH DAY.THE POWER OF THIS EXERCISE IS CLEAR, YOU MUST BE CONCIOUS OF ALL YOUR BLESSINGS IN ORDER TO APPRECIATE WHATEVER NEW BLESSING COME YOUR WAY YOUR FACE MUST BE EVER SMILING.IT CHANGES IMPACT AND EXPRESSION, IT ALSO CLARIFIES THE ANGLE YOU ARE THINKING.I STILL REMEMBER THAT A C.E.O OF A VERY BIG COMPANY IN KUWAIT ALWAYS MET ME WITH A GLITTERING SMILE, WHICH BOOSTS THE MORALE OF EMPLOYEES. A SMILING FACE INDEXES YOUR INNER AS GOOD.RETURN SMILES WILL MAKE YOU MORE HAPPY. JUST EXAMPLE YOU ARE NEAR LIFT, YOU ALLOW AND INVITE OTHER WAITING PERSON TO PROCEED FIRST. IN THIS SMILING INVITATION YOU WILL FEEL A PLEASURE AND IMMENSE PLEASURE, FREE OF COST. WHAT EVER YOU GET, ACCEPT IT.
ALL TOO OFTEN,WHEN SOMETHING BAD HAPPENS, WE ARE TOO QUICK TO POINT FINGER AND START PLACING BLAME ANYONE ELSE. HAPPINESS IS ABOUT ACCEPTING RESPONSIBILITY AND DEALING WITH WHAT COMES YOUR WAY. EVEN IF YOU BLAME THE WHOLE WORLD, IT WILL NOTSOLVE ANYTHING.

PROBLEMS = CATALYST TO TAKE ACTION

PHILOSPHERS ADVISES TO SEE PROBLEMS AS A CATALYST FOR US TO TAKE ACTION. PROBLEMS ARE GOOD TEACHERS, SO LEARN TO LOVE THEM. NEXT TIME, WHEN YOU FACE A PROBLEM AT WORK/IN BUSINESS, REMEMBER TO RUN UP TO YOUR BOSS/PARTNER AND SAY, “WE HAVE A HUGE OPPORTUNITY!” NO ONE ELSE IS GOING TO MAKE YOU HAPPIER. WORK ON YOURSELF.

A LOT OF PEOPLE GET THINGS MIXED UP. A WIFE THINKS ABOUT ALL BADS THINGS IN HER HUSBAND, WHILE A WIDOW RECALLS ALL THE GOOD STUFF RELATING TO HER DECEASED HUSBAND.THAT IS THE ULTIMATE RECIPE.FOR MISERY! IS NOT IT BETTER TO SWITCH THE AROUND? WORK ON YOUR MIND SET, SEE THINGS FROM A POSITIVE ANGLE.

Conclusion

HAPPINESS IS THE WAY YOU THINK, YOU REACT. NONE CAN PLAY ANY ROLE TO MAKE YOU HAPPY , BUT YOUR SELF-FAITH SELF ESTEEM WILL TEACH YOU SOMETHING ABOUT HAPPINESS  ! THAT GOES BEYOND WORDS AND EXPECTATIONS.LEARN “CONTENTMENT”.IN CASE OF INJUSTICE, DISCREMINATION FROM SUPERIORS WHERE YOU ARE HELPLESS, LEAQVE ALL TO” LAW OF NATURE.RSULTS WILL BEE SEEN TRANSPARENTLY “ BE SURE THOSE WHO DID INJUSTICE DUE TO PERSONAL GRUDGES, ABUSED THEIR POWER, WILL NEVER SLEEP PEACEFULLY, BUT WITH SLEEPING PILLS.