( WHERE EAGLES DARE )

HAPPINESS –

IS THE MOST BEUTIFULL WORD OF THE DAY.IF WE THINK HONESTLY , LIFE IS TRAVELLING FROM “TOUGH TO TOUGHEST”.  ALL LOOK FOR A MOMENT OF HAPPINESS WHICH MAY PROVIDE THEM AN OPPORTUNITY TO LAUGH. I MEAN HAHAHAHAH. BUT NO CHANCE? AS A RESULT, UNKNOWN, STRANGE, COMPLICATED, NEVER PRECEDENTED DISEASES ARE APPEARING? SEE AROUND, ALL FACES ARE STRETCHED, SCARED, TENSIONFULL? FOR WHAT WE ARE SEARCHING FOR? WHAT CAN MAKE US HAPPY? OUR FOUR FATHERS GREW AND DIED IN A HEALTHY ATMOSPHERE! WHY WE ARE UNDER HEART ATTACKS? NERVOUS BRAKE DOWN OR SUCH COMPLICATE DISEASES? WHY WE ALL ARE AFTER MONEY? IS MONEY THE ULTIMATE SOLUTION OF OUR AGONIES? CAN WE BUY HAPPINESS, HEALTH, PEACE OF MIND WITH MONEY? IS MONEY PENACEA AGAINST ALL FEELINGS? ABSLOLUTELY NOT MOST PEOPLE FEEL HAPPY ONLY WHEN THEIR MATERIAL DESIRES ARE SATISFIED.THAT HAPPINESS BRINGS A SENSATION THAT HAS LITTLE TO DO WITH EXTERNAL FORCES, SUCH AS WHAT WE POSSES AND WHAT WE EARN.INSTEAD,IT IS AN EMOTIONAL STATE THAT WE CAN TURN OFF AND ON AT OUR WILL BY EMBRACING THE TALENT AND AVAILABLE OPPERTUNITIES, INSTEAD OF CLINGING TO THE PAIN WE HAVE SUFFERED IN THE PAST.WE CAN CREATE FUN AND JOY AT ANY TIME, AT ANT SPOT WHICH WILL HELP YOU TO GET TRUE HAPPINESS.

IF MONEY IS SO IMPORTANT, THEN NO RICH SHOULD HAVE DEPRESSION, NERVOUS BRAKE DOWN, WHICH IS A CONCRETE EVIDENCE THAT MONEY IS NOT THE ABSOLUTE SOLUTION. WE ARE CONDITIONED TO BE RICH (INSPITE OF KNOWLEDGE THAT RICH ARE ALSO NOT HAPPY, WE WISH TO BUY ALL LUXRIES AND FACILITIES DISPLAYED AT TELEVISIONS SO AS TO IMPROVE OUR LIFE STLE AND STATUS.( TO SHOW OTHERS)

BE SURE, NONE OF THAT WILL BRING HAPPINESS, NO MATTER HOW MUCH WE EARN, NO MATTER HOW MUCH WE RUN, NO MATTER HOW MUCH BANK BALANCE WE HAVE, NO MATTER HOW NICE IS OUR WEARING / CAR. NONE OF THESE WILL MAKE US HAPPY AND THE SAD THING IS THAT IT COULD TAKE US DECADES OF PURSUING WEALTH AND LUXRY ITEMS BEFORE WE REALIZE.

THEN QUESTION IS HOW WE CAN GET HAPPINESS? I AM OF THE OPINION THAT GOD CREATED HUMANITY FOR CERTAIN REASONS, AND THAT MAY BE :-

GOOD RELATIONSHIP.

WE HAVE A HUMAN NEED TO BE CLOSE, TO BE INTIMATE, WITH OTHER HUMAN BEINGS. HAVING GOOD, SUPPORTIVE FRIENDSHIPS, A STRONG CONNECTION OR CLOSE AND LOVING RELATIONSHIPS WITH OUR FAMILY MEMBERS WILL MAKE US MUCH MORE LIKELY TO BE HAPPY. ACTION STEPS: TAKE TIME, TODAY, TO SPEND TIME WITH YOUR LOVED ONES, TO TELL THEM WHAT THEY MEAN TO YOU, TO LISTEN O THEM, AND DEVELOP YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM.

POSITIVE THINKING.

I’M OBVIOUSLY A BIG PROPONENT OF POSITIVE THINKING AS THE BEST WAY TO ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS, BUT IT TURNS OUT THAT IT CAN LEAD TO HAPPINESS TOO. OPTIMISM AND SELF-ESTEEM ARE SOME OF THE BEST INDICATORS OF PEOPLE WHO LEAD HAPPY LIVES. HAPPY PEOPLE FEEL EMPOWERED, IN CONTROL OF THEIR LIVES, AND HAVE A POSITIVE OUTLOOK ON LIFE. ACTION STEPS: MAKE POSITIVE THINKING A HABIT. IN FACT, THIS SHOULD BE ONE OF THE FIRST HABITS YOU DEVELOP. GET INTO THE HABIT OF SQUASHING ALL NEGATIVE THOUGHTS AND REPLACING THEM WITH POSITIVE ONES. INSTEAD OF “I CAN’T” THINK “I CAN”. IT MAY SOUND CORNY, BUT IT HAS WORKED FOR ME, EVERY TIME.

FLOW

WHEN WE ENTER WE ARE COMPLETELY FOCUSED ON THE WORK OR TASK BEFORE US. WE ARE SO IMMERSED IN OUR TASK THAT WE LOSE TRACK OF TIME. HAVING WORK AND LEISURE THAT GETS YOU IN THIS STATE OF FLOW WILL ALMOST UNDOUBTEDLY LEAD TO HAPPINESS. PEOPLE FIND GREATEST ENJOYMENT NOT WHEN THEY’RE PASSIVELY MINDLESS, BUT WHEN THEY’RE ABSORBED IN A MINDFUL CHALLENGE.

ACTION STEP:

FIND WORK THAT YOU’RE PASSIONATE ABOUT. SERIOUSLY — THIS IS AN EXTREMELY IMPORTANT STEP. FIND HOBBIES THAT YOU’RE PASSIONATE ABOUT. SUSPEND THE CURRENT ACTIVITY — THIS IS THE OPPOSITE OF FLOW — AND GET OUTSIDE AND DO SOMETHING THAT TRULY ENGAGES YOU, FOR SAKE OF A CHANGE.

NOW GO TO SITUATION AS GOING TO TELL YOU RIGHT NOW.-A YOUNG BOY RIDING ON CYCLE IS PASSING A ROAD WHERE A CAR HITS HIM AND AS RESULT HE LOOSES HIS ONE LEG. WHAT HE HAVE TO DO ? ? BY REPENTANCE CAN HE GET HIS LEG BACK? DO HE HAVE ANYOTHER OPTION BUT TO ACCEPT REALITY? SURELY HE WILL BE A PSYCHO. ON OTHER HAND IF HE ACCEPTS SITUATION AND FACES IT AS FATE. HE WILL DO BEST TO ACHIEVE AIMS OF LIFE.TO PROVE THIS, I WOULD REQUEST ALL TO VISIT OR MEET SUCH PEOPLE, STRANGELY, YOU WILL FIND THEM MORE HAPPY COMPARING TO OTHERS. BECAUSE THEY HAVE “ADJUSTED” AND CONTENTED UPON SITUATION.

HAPPINESS IS A STATE OF MIND:

IN IS GENERAL PRESUMPTION THAT HAPPINESS IS BASED UPON ACHIEVEMENTS AND EARNINGS LIKE ——– I WILL BE HAPPY IF I GET A NEW CAR, OR JOB . THEN WISH WILL L INCREASE  TO —- I WILL BE HAPPY IF I GET MAREVOLOUS HOUSE / PLAZA OR SUPER MARKET.WHEN YOU GET ALL THEN? SO DEAR, HAPPINESS IS NOT A “HAPPENING”BUT A STATE OF MIND. YOU CAN HAVE EVERY THING IN THE WORLD AND STILL BE MISERABLE, OR YOU CAN HAVE RELATIVELY LITTLE AND FEEL UNBOUNDED HAPPINESS ! ! JUST AS LEARNING ANY NEW SKILL JOB, YOU HAVE TO BE WILLING TO INVEST SERIOUS EFFORTS TO ACHIEVE REAL HAPPINESS.ONE MUST LERAN “CONTENTMENT”, TRY TO BE CONTENTED BY ENJOYING ALL THAT WHAT YOU HAVE, MAY YOU LOOSE MOTIVATION. BEWARE, HAPPINESS DOES NOT DRAIN YOUR ENERGY, BUT ADDS MORE. JUST EXAMPLE A MAN BOUGHT ONE NEW CAR IF HE INVITES A HAPPY PERSON FOR A LONG DRIVE, HE WILL ACCEPT IMMEDIATELY, BUT OTHER PASSIVE WILL REFUSE TO GO UPON LAME PRETEXTS.LOOK AT OTHER ASPECT TOO . CANY YOU BUY EYESIGHT , SENSE TO SMELL,ANY BODY LIMB  OR TREAT AIDS ? ?NO , ABSOLUTELY NOT . THEN WHAT THE HELL IS MONEY ? 

HAPPINESS EXERCISE.

JUST INCREASE YOUR APPRECIATION OF LIFE.PINPONT SOME THINGS YOUR ARE EXTEMELY GRATEFULL FOR, AND COUNT THEM EVERY MORNING BEFORE LEAVING BED. THE THINGS ARE: YOUR HANDS, EYES,OTHER BODY LIMBS, FAMILY MEMBERS, SET ASIDE A FEW MINUTES EACH DAY TO CONTEMPLATE THESE PLEASURES AND FEELINGS. SIT WITH YOUR LOVE ONES EVERY EVENING AND DISCUSS ONE LEASURE THAT EACH OF YOU HAD THAT DAY. SHARE ALL FEELONGS AND SEE MIRCLEOUS RESULTS.

PRIORTIZE YOUR BLESSINGS

TO BECOME A REAL EXPERT AT APPRECIATIONS, PRIORTIZE YOUR LIST WHICH IS MORE VALUEABLE. YOUR BODY LIMBS, EYES, NOSE? SENSE OF TASTE? OR TOUCH COMPARING PLEASURE FORCE YOU TO ARTICULATE THE SUBTLE OF EAC H ONE.ALWAYS BE THANKFULL TO ALMIGHTY UPON THESE BLESSINGS THAT YOU CAN SEE, SMELL, TASTE, WALK, EAT , THINK NORMALLY.STILL YOU WILL SAY YOU ARE POOR ! !

TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR MISTAKES:

WE FEEL FEAR THAT OTHERS WILL DISLIKE US WHEN WE MAKE MISTAKES, SO WE TORTURE OURSELVES BY TRYING TO HIDE OR DENY THEM.WHEREAS FACT IS THAT PEOPLE DISLIKES THE EXCUSES AND THE FALSE SHIELDS TO COVERUP OUR MISTAKES. OWING UP TO YOUR MISTAKES SHOWS YOU CARE AND HELPS BRING RESOLUTION AND HEALING. IT ALSO REFLECTS YOUR SENSE OF RESPOSIBILITIES. AS A TRUTHFULL PERSON. FORGIVE YOURSELF FIRST: WHICH IS PROBABLY
A BIGGEST HURDLE. MISTAKES ARE TOUGH ON SELF ESTEEM IF YOU INTEND TO BE PERFECT. HOWEVER, NONE GETS THROUGH LIFE WITHOUT MAKING MISTAKES AND SOMETIMES BLUNDERS. APOLOGISE
AND RECTIFY ERROR, AVOID CLARIFICATION OR ARGUMENTS. OTHER WILL WELCOME YOU AND HELP, AND YOU WILL FEEL HAPPIER WITH YOURSELF FOR TAKING CONSTRUCTIVE ACTION. THINK MOST RECENT MISTAKE YOU MADE:IF YOU HAVE NOT MADE AMENDS, ITS PROBABLY NOT TOO LATE TO SAY “I M SORRY””

STAY INCHARGE OF YOUR THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS:

ALTHOUGH YOU CAN NOT CONTRO; EVENTS, YOU CAN MANAGE YOUR REACTIONS TO THEM. ONLY YOU CAN DECIDE WHETHER TO CHOOSE HARMONY OR TURMOIL.

USE MENTAL IMAGERY:

HOLDING A POSITIVE IMAGE IN YOUR MIND CROWDS OUT NEGATIVITY, AND POSITIVE THOUGHTS HAVE BEEN SHOWN TO CREATE HAPPIER FEELINGS.TAKE A TIME-OUT. GO FOR A NATURE WALK.
SITE SCENES. THE OUTDOORS IS A NATURAL TONIC. OR MEDITATE, LISTEN TO MUSIC OR GIVE YOURSELF A PEP TALK.

BE FIRM THAT YOU CAN OVERCOME OBSTACLES EASILY.

WHY GIVE UP IN DESPAIR

WHEN NATURE CONSTANTLY GIVES US THE HOPEFUL MESSAGES ? THAT WE CAN ALWAYS FIND A WAY? WHERE THERE IS A PROBLEM THERE IS A WAY. LOOK FOR IT. EVERYONE OF US FACES AGONIES, URDLES,PROBLEM IN LIFE. THE UNHAPPY CHOICE IS TO LET THEM STOP YOU BELIEVING YOU CAN FIND AN OPENING TO GROW AND BLOSSOM, THE JOYOUS, LIFE AFFIRMING OPTION.

BE OPEN TO REDIRECTIONS:

WHEN THINGS DON’T GO AS YOU HAVE PLANNED, STOP AND THINK WHERE THIS DIFFERENT PATH MIGHT BE LEADING YOU. EVENTS THAT AT FIRST SEEM TO BE UNFORTUNATE OR UNDESIRABLE MAY ACTUALLY PROVIDE SURPRISING ADVANTAGES.

TAKE EACH PROBLEM AS AN OPPORTUNITY TO GROW:

MANY PATIENTS I’VE TREATED AND COUNSELED OVER THE YEARS HAVE SAID THEIR ILLNESSES TAUGHT THEM TO VALUE THEIR LIVES AND IMPLEMENT WONDERFUL CHANGES.YOU DON’T HAVE TO “BREAK THROUGH THE PAVEMENT” IN A SINGLE DAY. TAKE TROUBLES ONE STEP AT A TIME. CELEBRATE EACH SIGN OF PROGRESS BEFORE TAKING THE NEXT STEP.

DEAL CONSTRUCTIVELY WITH CRITICISM:

“SUFI POET “MOULANA ROOMI” WRITES CRITICISM POLISHES MY MIRROR.”REGARDING CRITICISM AS A THREAT, AN INSULT OR PROOF THAT YOU’RE WORTHLESS WON’T MAKE YOU HAPPY. INSTEAD,
IT IS BETTER TO TAKE A MORE OPTIMISTIC VIEW AND SEE CRITICISM AS A LEARNING TOOL TO HELP YOU IMPROVE.I’VE BEEN FORTUNATE TO HAVE MANY CRITICS AMONG MY PATIENTS. WHEN PEOPLE GIVE YOU CRITICISM, IT MEANS THEY FEEL YOU ARE WILLING TO LISTEN AND CHANGE.EVALUATE THE SOURCE OF THE CRITICISM. THOSE WHO LOVE FINDING FAULT WITH EVERYONE WILL ONLY SCRATCH YOUR MIRROR, NOT POLISH IT.WHEN CRITICIZED BY PEOPLE YOU TRUST, THINK OF YOURSELF AS AN ATHLETE GETTING DIRECTION AND SUPPORT FROM A COACH WHO WANTS TO SEE YOU PERFORM BETTER. DON’T LET CRITICISM SHAKE YOUR CONFIDENCE.
USE APPRAISALS AS A WAY TO HELP YOUR EACHA HIGHER LEVEL OF PERFORMANCE.

ONE HOUR BLESSING FEST.

THIS EXERCISE MAY BE SLIGHT TOUGH- SPEND SOME TIME WRITING DOWN EVERYTHING FOR WHICH YOU ARE GRATEFULL.ONCE THE LIST IS COMPLETED, ADD ONE NEW BLESSING EACH DAY.THE POWER OF THIS EXERCISE IS CLEAR, YOU MUST BE CONCIOUS OF ALL YOUR BLESSINGS IN ORDER TO APPRECIATE WHATEVER NEW BLESSING COME YOUR WAY YOUR FACE MUST BE EVER SMILING.IT CHANGES IMPACT AND EXPRESSION, IT ALSO CLARIFIES THE ANGLE YOU ARE THINKING.I STILL REMEMBER THAT A C.E.O OF A VERY BIG COMPANY IN KUWAIT ALWAYS MET ME WITH A GLITTERING SMILE, WHICH BOOSTS THE MORALE OF EMPLOYEES. A SMILING FACE INDEXES YOUR INNER AS GOOD.RETURN SMILES WILL MAKE YOU MORE HAPPY. JUST EXAMPLE YOU ARE NEAR LIFT, YOU ALLOW AND INVITE OTHER WAITING PERSON TO PROCEED FIRST. IN THIS SMILING INVITATION YOU WILL FEEL A PLEASURE AND IMMENSE PLEASURE, FREE OF COST. WHAT EVER YOU GET, ACCEPT IT.
ALL TOO OFTEN,WHEN SOMETHING BAD HAPPENS, WE ARE TOO QUICK TO POINT FINGER AND START PLACING BLAME ANYONE ELSE. HAPPINESS IS ABOUT ACCEPTING RESPONSIBILITY AND DEALING WITH WHAT COMES YOUR WAY. EVEN IF YOU BLAME THE WHOLE WORLD, IT WILL NOTSOLVE ANYTHING.

PROBLEMS = CATALYST TO TAKE ACTION

PHILOSPHERS ADVISES TO SEE PROBLEMS AS A CATALYST FOR US TO TAKE ACTION. PROBLEMS ARE GOOD TEACHERS, SO LEARN TO LOVE THEM. NEXT TIME, WHEN YOU FACE A PROBLEM AT WORK/IN BUSINESS, REMEMBER TO RUN UP TO YOUR BOSS/PARTNER AND SAY, “WE HAVE A HUGE OPPORTUNITY!” NO ONE ELSE IS GOING TO MAKE YOU HAPPIER. WORK ON YOURSELF.

A LOT OF PEOPLE GET THINGS MIXED UP. A WIFE THINKS ABOUT ALL BADS THINGS IN HER HUSBAND, WHILE A WIDOW RECALLS ALL THE GOOD STUFF RELATING TO HER DECEASED HUSBAND.THAT IS THE ULTIMATE RECIPE.FOR MISERY! IS NOT IT BETTER TO SWITCH THE AROUND? WORK ON YOUR MIND SET, SEE THINGS FROM A POSITIVE ANGLE.

Conclusion

HAPPINESS IS THE WAY YOU THINK, YOU REACT. NONE CAN PLAY ANY ROLE TO MAKE YOU HAPPY , BUT YOUR SELF-FAITH SELF ESTEEM WILL TEACH YOU SOMETHING ABOUT HAPPINESS  ! THAT GOES BEYOND WORDS AND EXPECTATIONS.LEARN “CONTENTMENT”.IN CASE OF INJUSTICE, DISCREMINATION FROM SUPERIORS WHERE YOU ARE HELPLESS, LEAQVE ALL TO” LAW OF NATURE.RSULTS WILL BEE SEEN TRANSPARENTLY “ BE SURE THOSE WHO DID INJUSTICE DUE TO PERSONAL GRUDGES, ABUSED THEIR POWER, WILL NEVER SLEEP PEACEFULLY, BUT WITH SLEEPING PILLS.