INFLUENCE IS THE ABILITY TO CHANGE PERCEPTIONS, DECISIONS AND BEHAVIORS OF OTHERS , WITHOUT NECESSARILY HAVING FORMAL AUTHORITY TO DO SO.WHILE CHANGING PERCEIEVED CONCEPT . UPON LOGICS AND ETHICS..
RULES OF INFLUENCING
MINIMIZING THE USE OF POWER.. DO NOT USE POWER UNWANTEDLY.IF A SUBRDINATE CRITICISES AND OBJECT OPENLY UPON YOUR FACE ( APPARENTLY MAY FEEL AN INSULT) AVOID TAKING IMMEDIATE DRASTIC ACTION , BE COOL , THINK AND DECIDE.. SOME SUBORDINATES MAY TRY TO CLEAR THEIR CONCEPT BY MAKING YOUR CARTOONS , DO NOT THINK TO TAKE REVENGE IMMEDIATLEY . SUCH DARING MAY BE HARMFULL FOR YOUR HEALTH, SO MISUSE OF POWER MAY RESULT IN “SUICIDE ATTACKS” TRY TO RESOLVE BY DIALOGUES
IDENTIFY THOSE YOU HAVE TO INFLUENCE.SPECIFY ? STUDY CATEGORY WHERE YOU HAVE TO INFLUENCE ? FIRST IDENTIFY , THEN PLAN , AND FINALLY DEAL WITH. .NEVER USE GUN TO KILL MOSQITTO.
REMEMBER THAT THE PERSON YOU HAVE TO INFLUENCE IS AS SUBJECT TO THE MACRO-INFLUENCES OF EVERYDAY LIFE AS ANYONE ELSE
GET TO KNOW WHERE THE PRESSURE POINT AND PROGRESS POINTS ARE AND HOW AND WHEN TO PRESS THEM .GO FOR WHAT IS REALLY IMPORTANT
PREPARE A MENTAL DOSSIER ON TARGET BEFORE YOU BEGIN ?
A WISE MAN QUALITY IS TO BE A GOOD LISTENER .
GREAT THINGS CAN BE ACHIEVED BY BEING SILENT AT THE RIGHT TIME
LISTEN ACTIVELY; BE SEEN TO LISTEN
AVOID HASTED , ABRUPT JUDGEMENTS , ALWAYS REVIEW AS SECOND LOOK
IF YOU CAN INFLUENCE THE TOP MANAGEMENT YOU CAN BE AS INFLUENTIAL AS THE TOP SINGLE OBJECTIVES . A MULTIPLICITY DILUTES YOUR CHANCE OF SUCCESS UNLESS YOU CAN HOLD CENTRE- FIRST MAKE A LIST OF PERSONS WITH WHOM YOU HAVE TO DEAL . THE NAME AT TOP MUST BE RETIRED / TERMINATED IMMEDAITELY , THEN PAUSE , AFTER THAT SECOND , THEN THIRD. AVOID TO TAKE STEP AT ONE TIME.MAY SOME ONE HAS CALIBRE TO INFLUENCE TOP MANAGEMENT ! ! IF SOME ONE NEED INCREMENT OF 2 KD , GIVE HIM. DO NOT STAND ON TAIL. OR MAKE EGGO MATTER.
USE THE RIGHT LEVEL. IN-BETWEEN PEOPLE AND IN BETWEEN
USE TERRITORIAL IMPERATIVE: ACT ON YOUR OWN GROUND
YOU ARE ONLY INFLUENTIAL IF YOU ARE PERCEIVED TO BE WILLING TO STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE. IF YOU’RE NOT POPULAR, IT’S BECAUSE YOU’RE NOT COMFORTABLE DOING THE THINGS THAT POPULAR PEOPLE TEND TO DO–,. YOU MIGHT BE INTROSPECTIVE, OR QUIET,BUT IN ORDER TO GET WHAT YOU WANT, YOU NEED TO CHANGE HOW YOU INTERACT WITH PEOPLE. AT FIRST, THAT MIGHT FEEL LIKE YOU’RE BEING SHALLOW OR FAKE, BUT REMEMBER , ALL ABOUT KNOWING WHAT YOU TRULY WANT OUT OF LIFE. THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WANTING GOOD TERMS WITH PEOPLE .
POPULAR PEOPLE ARE ON FRIENDLY TERMS WITH PRETTY MUCH EVERYONE–NOT ONLY THEIR PEERS, BUT ALSO TO OTHER MEMBERS OF SOCIETY , RELATIVES AND AMONG FRIEND CIRCLE.
TALK TO ANYONE AND EVERYONE WHO CROSSES YOUR PATH. AND IF THEY GREET YOU , YOU GREET BACK, ASK THEM HOW THEY’RE DOING. NO MATTER WHERE YOU GO, TO CHAT WITH STRANGERS AND ACQUAINTANCES ALIKE, EVEN IF IT’S JUST FOR A FEW MINUTES.BEWARE , WHAT EVER YOU DO , KEEP YOUR EYES OPEN . CLOSE YOUR EARS IF YOUR SOME “CHUMCHA KHAS” SAYS ANYTHING.
KEEP IT CASUAL. IS ALL ABOUT STICKING TO “SAFE” TOPICS. AVOID CONTROVERSIAL , LIKE RELIGION OR POLITICS , OR HEARING NEGATIVE ABOUT OTHERS. AVOID COMMENTS AND VIEWS ON A CONTROVERSIAL TOPIC, YOU’RE BOUND TO BE UNPOPULAR WITH PEOPLE WHO DISAGREE. KEEP THE TOPICS “LIGHT”. NEVER BELIEVE THOSE WHO ALWAYS FLATTERS YOU AND PEERS.
RESPECT PEOPLE’S PRIVACY , AND,STUDY BODY LANGUAGE, OBSERVE WHEN YOUR QUESTIONS STARTS MAKING THEM UNCOMFORTABLE. DON’T INVITE YOURSELF ANYWHERE, DON’T BRAG, AND DON’T INTERRUPT. IN OTHER WORDS,
OBSERVE THE “LOOKS” OF PEOPLE WHERE YOU ARE WORKING ! TRY TO GET OPINION HOW PEOPLW THINK ABOUT YOU ? DON’T TRY TO ACT INTERESTING TO GET OTHER PEOPLE’S ATTENTION; ACT INTERESTED IN THEM. ASK THEM HOW WORK OR ACTIVITIES GOING, HOW THEIR FAMILY IS DOING, HOW THAT SITUATION THEY MENTIONED A WHILE BACK TURNED OUT, AND SO ON. THEN RELATE. TALK TO THEM ABOUT HOW YOU OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW HAD SOMETHING SIMILAR HAPPEN TO THEM, AND HOW THEY DEALT WITH IT.
POPULAR PEOPLE DON’T JUST KNOW EVERYONE
THEY’RE ON GOOD TERMS WITH EVERYONE. THEY ESTABLISH THOSE TERMS BY HELPING PEOPLE OUT, AND THEY DON’T DO IT IN PARTICULARLY NOTICEABLE WAYS (THEY’RE NOT THE MARTYRS OR SAINTS OF SOCIETY). THEY DO LITTLE THINGS TO ESTABLISH RAPPORT (IN ADDITION TO SOME BIG THINGS, JUST AS THEY PROVIDE LUNCH TO PERSON WHEN NEED IT. THEY CLOSE THE NEIGHBOR’S GATE WHEN IT OPENS AFTER A STRONG WIND. THEY HOLD THE DOOR OPEN AND WAIT FOR THE PERSON BEHIND THEM.IF YOU TRULY EMPATHIZE WITH PEOPLE, YOU’LL WANT THINGS TO WORK OUT FOR THEM. IF THERE’S NOTHING YOU CAN DO TO HELP THEN, AT THE VERY LEAST, LET THEM KNOW THAT YOU’RE HOPING THE BEST FOR THEM. HERE ARE SOME PHRASES THAT YOU’LL OFTEN HEAR POPULAR PEOPLE SAYING:
IT MAY SOUND TRITE, BUT POPULAR PEOPLE LIVE OUT THIS POPULAR PHRASE. YOU MIGHT THINK THAT IN ORDER TO BE POPULAR, TALENTED, BUT–WHILE IT’S TRUE THAT THOSE QUALITIES ARE MORE LIKELY TO MAKE YOU A HIT WITH PEOPLE–THERE ARE EXTREMELY POPULAR PEOPLE WHO ARE OTHERWISE QUITE AVERAGE, AND THERE ARE EXTREMELY GOOD-LOOKING AND TALENTED PEOPLE WHO ARE ANYTHING BUT POPULAR. REMEMBER, THE ONLY THING YOU NEED IN ORDER TO BE POPULAR IS A GOOD SET OF PEOPLE SKILLS–THE REMAINDER IS ALL YOURS TO MOLD AS YOU SEE FIT, REGARDLESS OF WHAT ANYONE ELSE THINKS.
FORGET NOT TO KEEP IN TOUCH WITH OLD FRIENDS / COLLEGUES / SUBORDINATES TO IMPRESS THEM THAT YOU YOU’VE FORGOTTEN THEM ( EVEN IF YOU HAVE TERMINATED OR RETIRED THAT PERSON) JUST BECAUSE YOU’RE MAKING NEW ONES. DON’T JUST HANG OUT WITH ONE IN ORDER TO BE POPULAR, YOU MUST BE ABLE TO COMMUNICATE WITH OTHERS EFFECTIVELY. THIS VIDEO WILL GIVE YOU SOME IMPORTANT TIPS ON IMPROVING YOUR COMMUNICATION SKILLS WITH OTHERS SO YOU CAN BECOME POPULAR.
BEWARE :
GUARD YOUR PRIVACY. WHEN EVERYONE KNOWS YOU, IT MEANS THAT THERE’S A GREATER LIKELIHOOD OF NOSINESS AND GOSSIP. THINK OF HOW FAMOUS CELEBRITIES HAVE SOMEONE PRYING INTO THEIR PERSONAL LIVES AT ALL TIMES (INQUIRING MINDS WANT TO KNOW). YOU’LL ALSO NEED TO BE PREPARED FOR PEOPLE STARTING CONVERSATIONS WITH YOU WHILE YOU’RE RUNNING ERRANDS OR SITTING DOWN READING A BOOK AT THE PARK. IT COMES WITH THE PACKAGE. HANDLE IT GRACEFULLY.
DON’T THINK TOO HARD. BEING POPULAR IS AS MUCH A STATE OF MIND AS ANYTHING ELSE. IF PEOPLE SEE YOU TRYING TOO HARD TO BE POPULAR, THEY WILL USUALLY DISMISS YOUR EFFORTS. POPULARITY, IN THE END, IS ONLY PARTLY ABOUT HOW OTHERS SEE YOU. YOUR REPUTATION MAY FADE AND CHANGE OVER TIME, AND THE ONLY THING YOU CAN CONTROL IS HOW YOU TREAT OTHERS.
DON’T BE DISAPPOINTED IF YOU FAIL. POPULARITY CAN BE EASY FOR SOME AND PRACTICALLY IMPOSSIBLE FOR OTHERS. THERE ARE MANY FACTORS WHICH CAN PREVENT A PERSON FROM BEING OUTGOING AND WELL-LIKED, BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN THE PERSON IS WORTH ANY LESS.
REALIZE THAT POPULARITY HAS ITS UPS AND DOWNS, AND MAY FADE VERY QUICKLY WHEN YOU START AT A NEW SCHOOL OR JOB. EVERY SITUATION IS DIFFERENT, AND SOMETIMES YOU NEED TO START OVER.
TREAT EQUALLY WHILE REFUSING AND REJECTING NEPOTISM. BE FAIR AND HONEST.
